Important Are Good Manners for Your Boys?
You already know the answer. "Very."
Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or
soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by
a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air
we breathe in. - Edmund Burke
Parents are usually more careful to bestow knowledge on their children
rather than virtue, the art of speaking well rather than doing well; but
their manners should be of the greatest concern. - R. Buckminster Fuller
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you
have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.
- Emily Post
Good old Emily Post was right. It
doesn't really matter what fork your Boys use... The essence
of Good Manners runs much deeper than that. A Boy's manners are reflected
in how they interact with those around them - family members, their friends,
other adults. The kind of manners your Boys display toward others tell
more about their character than any words can say.
In days gone by, Good Manners used to be considered important -- even
essential. But somehow over the past couple of generations, our society
has shifted from "caring for others" to "pleasing ourselves". Academic
achievement (learning facts and knowledge) has become much more important
than learning to show civility and respect to those around us.
We live in a day and age where manners are NOT highly valued -- and
bad manners are actively promoted. Plain old common courtesy is at an all-time
low. If ever there was a time that instilling good manners into our Boys
was difficult, it is now. In fact, this can be one of the toughest jobs
a parent has to face.
But isn't there an easy, "1-2-3
method" of teaching your boys to have good manners? Sorry...
there is no such critter.
Unfortunately, there is no "instant fix" for manners. Teaching "good
manners" to your Boys cannot be done by simply watching a DVD, or listening
to some catchy songs, or by doing a "unit study", or even a nightly bedtime
reading from "Miss Manners' Rules of Etiquette" (yeesh!). Instead, instilling
good manners into your Boys is an ongoing, day-in and day-out journey that
does not end until they are all grown up and out the door. Truly, the goal
is worth it... and the benefits are tremendous. But it takes persistence...
commitment... patience... and a game plan.
What we have here are the tools you need to help you map
out that plan for your household. This resource package will help
guide you in your ongoing quest to instill better manners into your Boys...
and at the same time help them understand the true reasons why
"good manners" are so vitally important, right now and for their future.
Here's what is included in this packed "toolbox"
of resources you can put to use in YOUR household right away:
Things Your Boys Need to Know:
Guide to Boys and Manners
Boys with good manners are the kind of people that you want to be around.
They are able to demonstrate respect, and are themselves respected.
Boys who use good manners, who can comfortably carry on a conservation,
and know how to act appropriately with people of different ages and backgrounds
are more likely to achieve than those who can’t. By teaching our boys good
manners, we are giving them skills they can use in every aspect of their
lives. This ebook contains some very practical advice on how to "teach"
good manners to your boys day in and day out. Included are a full hundred
important examples of good manners at home, in public, with friends, and
rules of conduct that every Boy should be aware of and try to live by.
Boys Manners: Homeschool Parents Share Their Best Tips and Strategies
We asked over 350 homeschooling families: “What advice would you give
to other families who are trying to instill some better manners into their
Boys? What has worked for you? What tips and techniques actually help these
things “stick”? The common themes they shared came through loud and clear.
There are specific ways to instill manners in Boys... and they don't always
come easy and they never come quick... but these tried-and-true tips and
strategies will help you map out a plan for your own household.
of the House: Homeschool Parents Share Their Most Important Household Manners
Again we asked over 350 homeschooling parents: “If you decided to post
the most important rules of your household on your refrigerator door right
at eye level so your boys would see it every day (and so you could direct
their attention to it often) -- what would you put there?" Here are their
suggestions – real, nitty-gritty "house rules" from boy-filled households
(from the practical to the hysterically funny) that will help you know
what you should expect from your boys, and will let you develop your own
Bible Has to Say About Manners: A Study Guide
Does God think manners are important? Do our manners affect our relationships
with others? Do our manners reveal anything about our character? Do our
manners affect how others view us? What kind of manners are important anyway?
Is there something bigger and more important about manners that we need
to be aware of? This study guide will help you lead your Boys into a deeper
understanding of the true importance and meaning of "good manners".
Washington's Maxims of Civility
These 110 rules of good behavior were copied into a copybook by George
Washington when he was a 12 year old schoolboy. This is a quaint, funny,
and fascinating look at manners in centuries gone by... with some rewarding
insights that can even be applied to our Boys' lives even today.
Costs You Nothing: Great Quotes on Manners
Many writers, observers and philosophers have written about the value
of good manners throughout the ages. Their comments contain much insight,
humor and wisdom, and have application for our Boys even today. This unique
compilation of great quotations can be used for penmanship practice, memorization.,
or to print out and stick some choice quotes on your refrigerator door!
Tales of Truly Terrible Boys
Just for fun, we're including this one because we know Boys love wild
and crazy stuff, and this is about as nutty as they come. We can guarantee
your Boys will be enthralled with this book (if you decide to allow them
to see it -- it's your call!) This amazing full color children's picture
book from the 1800's, "Struwwelpeter" by Heinrich Hoffman, has the
subtitle "Merry Stories and Funny Pictures". But what it really features
are hilarious, awful stories of bad boys with horrible manners, who get
their comeuppance in terrible ways because of it. It is, as we like to
call it,"bad manners on steroids in the Twilight Zone." Warning: This
picture book may be too much for some Moms to take, but our red-blooded
Boys were fascinated by this crazy picture book when they were little.
It is a great little read-aloud book especially for DAD to share
with the Boys.
Links to Online "Boys and Manners" Resources
Finally, we've compiled a great selection of highly recommended links
to some wonderful FREE online resources that will supplement our own package.
Here you'll find great thought-provoking articles... over an hour of online
videos featuring classic "manners" films from the 1940s and 1950s... plus
many games and activities you can use in your own home to reinforce your
emphasis on good manners. There is something here for the youngest children
to your teenagers.
Update! We've just added even more helpful
resources to this helpful package:
Matter: A Biblical Perspective by Melissa Nuckols
Here's a downloadable PDF version of Melissa Nuckols' great article
from the Creation Science Academy
website on the Biblical origins of good manners, how our perceptions
of manners have changed over the past generation, and what our response
should be. Great, thought-provoking reading with practical applications
for our Boys.
And How NOT To Be Them! "
If our "Truly Terrible Tales" ebook above is too much for your little
ones (or Mom), introduce them to the classic "Goops" characters created
by Gelett Burgess in the early 1900s. "Goops" are little cartoon
creatures with awful manners, who serve as a role model for children about
what NOT to do when around others. This was THE classic "manners" picture
book series your great grandparents read and loved when they were small
fry. These fanciful poems and delightful illustrations (suitable for printing
out and coloring) are a delight to share with your little ones, and really
DO make quite an impression! "Goops" can easily become your household "code
word" for reminding your Boys to mind their manners!
And How NOT To Be Them!"
Here's a great audio reading of the classic poems and morals from the
Gelett Burgess "Goops" book above... perfect fare for rainy day or bedtime
listening! Your Boys (and girls too) will LONG remember the Goops! MP3
format, 25 minutes
Manners "Teaching Cheat Sheet"
Finally, we've included a terrific summarization of the topics and
concepts that MUST be dealt with if you want to effectively teach your
Boys better manners, including sections on what Mom must know, what Dad
must know, what your Boys must understand, and an "action plan" of effective
teaching techniques. You'll refer to this excellent "cheat sheet" again
There you have
it... a total of
helpful tools in one resource collection to help you with one
of the toughest parenting jobs of all... instilling good manners into your
boys. Yes, it is Tough with a capital "T"... but the goal is attainable...
the benefits are tremendous... and your Boys are worth it!
THINGS YOUR BOYS NEED TO KNOW:
Guide to Boys & Manners
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